Single Mom

Um keinen Preis der Welt als prekär gelten

Wie arm oder wie reich eine Alleinerziehende ist, scheint immer wieder ein Thema zu sein. Eine Replik von Caroline Rosales.

Zwei kleine Kinder und Reichtum schließen sich aus, sagt Caroline Rosales

Zwei kleine Kinder und Reichtum schließen sich aus, sagt Caroline Rosales

Foto: pa/Reto Klar

Berlin.  Nun schreibe ich diese „Single Mom“-Kolumne schon ein paar Monate und immer wieder ist da diese Frage in den Kommentarspalten, in den Mails, die mir zugesendet werden. Die Frage oder die Aussage geht von der Tonalität her so: „Bist Du nicht zu privilegiert, um die Zielgruppe der Alleinerziehenden zu repräsentieren? Du leistest Dir ein Aupair, der Vater deiner Kinder zahlt regelmäßig Unterhalt, und Du gehst aus.“

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