Missbrauch

„Alle Opfer haben das Gefühl, benutzt worden zu sein“

Der Berliner Psychologe und Traumafachberater Thomas Schlingmann berät Opfer von sexueller Gewalt. Er fordert eine umfangreichere Aufarbeitung solcher Taten.

Foto: Thomas Schlingmann

Thomas Schlingmann, 56, ist Psychologe und Traumafachberater. Er gehört zu den Gründern des Vereins Tauwetter e. V., der Männer berät, die im Kindes- und Jugendalter Opfer von sexueller Gewalt gewesen sind. Nach 2010 nahmen Schlingmann und seine Kollegen am Runden Tisch teil, den die Bundesregierung gegen sexuellen Kindesmissbrauch initiiert hatte.

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