Die Geliebte: Warum sie erträgt, nur die Nebenfrau zu sein

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Die Geliebte: Warum sie erträgt, nur die Nebenfrau zu sein

Aktualisiert: 12.12.2019, 10:55 | Lesedauer: 8 Minuten

Caroline Rosales

Eine Frau, die allein schläft, auch wenn sie einen Freund hat. Nur der hat noch eine andere Partnerin, sie ist die Geliebte. (Symbolbild)

**Foto:** Tero Vesalainen / Shutterstock / Tero Vesalainen

Eine Affäre ist verführerisch. Aber steht ein Mann zwischen zwei Frauen gewinnt selten die Geliebte. Warum tun sich Frauen das an?

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Für Geliebte sind Feiertage und Familienurlaube die einsamen Tage

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Für Frauen heißt es meist: Hoffen, warten, runterschlucken

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Liebe würde ein „Nein“ vertragen – eine Affäre nicht

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Wie ist der Mann, den man liebt, wohl zuhause bei seiner Familie?

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Statistisch gesehen trennen sich 50 Prozent der betrogenen Ehefrauen

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Die Geliebte: Warum sie erträgt, nur die Nebenfrau zu sein