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Trauernde Eltern ringen lebenslang mit ihrem Verlust. Viele leiden zusätzlich am fehlenden Verständnis der Mitmenschen - und immer mehr verarbeiten ihr Leid in Büchern, im Internet und in Selbsthilfegruppen Ich finde meine Tochter eigentlich nicht auf dem Friedhof", sagt Claudia Cardinal, "sondern an ganz anderen Orten".

Trauernde Eltern ringen lebenslang mit ihrem Verlust. Viele leiden zusätzlich am fehlenden Verständnis der Mitmenschen - und immer mehr verarbeiten ihr Leid in Büchern, im Internet und in Selbsthilfegruppen

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