Interview

Der Faulpelz in meinem Bett

Die Forderung nach einer Frauenquote im Arbeitsleben überlagert ein Problem: den mangelnden Elan vieler Väter, sich Hausarbeit und Erziehung zu teilen. Die Münchener Autorinnen Monika Bittl und Silke Neumayer haben ein Buch darüber geschrieben.

"Alleinerziehend - mit Mann". Ein Gespräch über ungemachte Betten, gestresste Mütter und das mysteriöse Phänomen der Büroflucht.

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