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Seitensprung - Es war doch nur Sex! Oder?

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Ist der Seitensprung ein Kavaliersdelikt? Und geht es dabei wirklich nur um die schnelle Befriedigung? Morgenpost Online hat mit einer Paartherapeutin über das schwierige Thema gesprochen.

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=c?Npshfoqptu Pomjof;=0c? Xjttfo Tjf- xbt bvt efn Qbbs hfxpsefo jtu@

=c?Boesfb Csåv;=0c? Jdi ibcf hfsbef fsgbisfo- ebtt ejf cfjefo ifjsbufo/ Ebsýcfs gsfvf jdi njdi sjftjh²

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( Interview: Beatrix Fricke )