Erziehung im Alltag

Trotzen, Treten, Türen knallen - die Wut der Kinder, die Not der Eltern

| Lesedauer: 8 Minuten
Annette Kuhn

Wenn Kinder richtig trotzig sind, möchten Eltern manchmal nur noch schreien - oder weglaufen.

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