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Warum viele Frauen ihre Partner immer mehr bemuttern

Psychotherapeuten beobachten, dass sich Partnerinnen zunehmend wie die Mütter ihrer Partner verhalten. Das kann problematisch sein.

Evelyn Hamann und Vicco von Bülow als "Ehepaar Lohse" im Film „Papa ante portas“.

Evelyn Hamann und Vicco von Bülow als "Ehepaar Lohse" im Film „Papa ante portas“.

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Berlin.  „Hast du die Schlüssel und das Geld eingesteckt?“, fragt Martha ihren Lebensgefährten beim Rausgehen. „Ich finde deine Jacke ein bisschen dünn, es soll gleich regnen.“ Dass sie die Zigaretten aus seiner Tasche herausgenommen hat, wird Bernhard erst auf dem Weg zur Bushaltestelle bemerken. Sie möchte einfach nicht, dass er so viel raucht.

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