Interview

"Wichtig ist: Fühle ich mich gewollt?"

| Lesedauer: 6 Minuten

Hat das "erste Mal" Auswirkungen auf die lebenslange Einstellung zur Sexualität? Darüber sprach Beatrix Fricke mit dem Diplom-Psychologen Dr. Christoph J. Ahlers, Leiter der Praxis für Paarberatung und Sexualtherapie am Institut für Sexualpsychologie Berlin.

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