Eltern-Kind-Beziehung

„Pflegekinder haben eine doppelte Identität, das kann schwierig sein“

| Lesedauer: 5 Minuten
Beatrix Fricke

Foto: Massimo Rodari

Ellen Hallmann von Familien für Kinder bereitet Pflegeeltern auf ihre Aufgabe vor. Ein Interview

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