Interview

"Nörgelnde Frauen sind die Pest"

| Lesedauer: 7 Minuten

Streiten kann man lernen. Schon seit 1996 bietet Simone Pöhlmann Wochenendseminare an - auch in Berlin. Antje Hildebrandt sprach mit der Münchener Anwältin und Mediatorin über zerstrittene Paare, cholerische Chefs und die Frage, ob Männer wirklich anders ticken.

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