Interview mit Holger Dammit

"Die Partner müssen den Unterschied würdigen können"

Wie können ungewöhnliche Paare ihre besonderen Herausforderungen meistern? Ein Gespräch mit dem Berliner Psychologen und Paarberater Holger Dammit.

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