Interview: Autorin Inka Schmeling

"Kinder haben nichts von Märtyrereltern"

| Lesedauer: 7 Minuten

Foto: Pressebild.de/Bertold Fabricius

Autorin Inka Schmeling rät allen Müttern und Vätern in ihrem Buch "Erziehungsquatsch", die eigenen Bedürfnisse im Blick zu behalten

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