Trennungskinder

Blind Date mit dem verlorenen Vater

| Lesedauer: 9 Minuten
Miriam Hollstein

Annelie Simon war drei Jahre alt, als ihr Zuhause zum Schauplatz eines Rosenkriegs wurde. Die Eltern hatten nach heftigen Streitereien die Scheidung eingereicht. Weil der Vater keine andere Wohnung fand, mussten sie das Trennungsjahr unter einem Dach verbringen. So verliefen die Frontlinien mitten durchs Wohnzimmer.

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Manipulierte Kinder

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Machtkampf zwischen den Eltern

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