Coming-Out

Männlich, mutig - und schwul

| Lesedauer: 8 Minuten
Antje Hildebrandt

Foto: Massimo Rodari

Mit fünfzehn wurde Alex Freier von fünf Jugendlichen verprügelt. Heute ist er das Gesicht einer Kampagne gegen Homophobie. Die Geschichte eines Coming-Out

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