Interview

"Rituale sind wichtig für ein langes Leben zu zweit"

| Lesedauer: 4 Minuten

Im Jahr 2009 wurden in Berlin 12 557 Ehen geschlossen - und 7395 Scheidungen besiegelt. Was kann man tun, damit die Beziehung funktioniert und die Ehe lange hält? Darüber sprach Karoline Beyer mit Paarforscherin und Beziehungsberaterin Anke Birnbaum von der Leuphana Universität Lüneburg.

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