Patchwork-Familien

Und langsam wächst alles zusammen

Patchwork ist aufreibend und anstrengend. Aber wenn das Experiment gelingt, kann es verdammt glücklich machen

Es gibt einen blöden alten Witz, der besagt, dass eine Frau über Vierzig eher vom Blitz getroffen wird, als einen neuen Mann zu finden. Das ist Quatsch. Richtig müsste es heißen: Die Wahrscheinlichkeit, dass die nächste große Liebe noch keine Kinder mit irgendwem anders hat, tendiert ab Mitte Dreißig gegen null.

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