Candle Light Day

Wo verwaiste Eltern Trost finden

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Buchautorin Nikola Gazzo hat ihren Sohn Frederic verloren.

Buchautorin Nikola Gazzo hat ihren Sohn Frederic verloren.

Foto: Joerg Krauthoefer / FUNKE Foto Services

Der „Candle Light Day“ ist der Tag, an dem Eltern ihrer verstorbenen Kinder gedenken. Wir haben mit zwei verwaisten Müttern gesprochen.

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