Alleinerziehender Vater

„Das Wichtigste ist, dass es den Kindern gut geht“

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Anette Nayhauß
Dominik Lemcke hält seine kleine Tochter auf dem Arm. Die beiden Söhne spielen in der Wohnung.

Dominik Lemcke hält seine kleine Tochter auf dem Arm. Die beiden Söhne spielen in der Wohnung.

Foto: Anikka Bauer

Seit seine Frau Franziska im Februar an einer Hirnhautentzündung starb, kümmert sich Dominik Lemcke allein um Elias, Louis und Leonie.

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„Die Kinder begreifen die Veränderungen noch nicht“

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